Does Your Success Make You Happy?

REAL SUCCESS makes you REAL HAPPY! No questions, conjecture, or debate.

However, feeling good about success is all in how you measure it. It’s all in your “yardstick.”

It’s simple, REAL success makes you happy! Real success allows you to “be more present” – to be more tolerant, more generous, to reach more people, and to shine authentically brighter.

The way you measure success, now that can trip you up! Webster’s dictionary says success is: “a degree or measure of succeeding.” OK, if it’s a measure, then you need to know what “yardstick” you are using to determine if you have achieved success…or not?

Are you like my friend, a highly visible, highly “successful” entrepreneur who measures her life by the speed at which she outpaces her peers? Striving for more, regardless of what it costs. If so, I know already that your life is full of drama, guilt, self-doubt, and unrelenting pressure.

What kind of “yardstick” do you think my friend is using? Here’s a tip: There’s a lot of judgment involved (both of self and of others). There’s not a lot of enjoyment. And trust me, there is suffering and sacrifice with this kind of “success.”

On the other hand, have you ever noticed the way children define success? It’s their enthusiasm for the moment, for the people around them. I’m often in awe of my 8-year-old son, whose enjoyment of each cartwheel — he’s done 9000 this year already — is infectious. He’s practicing, he’s achieving, he’s even including those around him (“Hey Dad, look at me”).

Simply, he’s succeeding and he’s enjoying the process too. No drama, no suffering.

Of course I know what you are going to say, “Children don’t have to make a living, or leave a legacy.” Sure, adults have different responsibilities – and that’s all good. What’s not good is how often those responsibilities feel like burdens.

What if I told you it doesn’t have to be that way?!

My clients get this. Yep, they discover that much of the guilt, self-sabotage, and wheel-spinning they used to tolerate just drops away when they begin to modify their “yardstick.” Energy that used to be “wasted” on these painful cycles is freed up to grow whatever it is they really want.

There is nothing more valuable than taking the time to align with what you really want — your core values, your next step(s) of achievement — and your measures of success.

I will help you heal those split intentions and conflicting family patterns, so you finally get to a place of alignment where your joy and your success flow naturally, feeding each other.

Things that seemed unachievable in the old, at-war-with-self paradigm become possible.

Things like: