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Somehow, Somewhere, Things Went Horribly Wrong!

You may have grown up hearing it, and if you google it, it becomes clear that it’s still a leading belief. “You can’t have success without sacrifice.”

At Success Without Sacrifice we work with clients who have sacrificed their self-care to care-take others. Who have sacrificed their authentic power to succeed at fitting in. Sacrificed their voices to be pleasing. Sacrificed their health to prove their stoic strength. In truth, they have sacrificed parts of themselves, parts of their very soul.

This is a mistake.

This is not sacrifice as a sacred surrender — as a gentle releasing that allows the ever-present Holy to flow in and bless our growth. The art of that kind of sacrifice has been largely lost.

Instead we have an understanding of sacrifice that leads Merriam’s Webster’s dictionary to list “immolation” and “victim” as synonyms! We think, essentially, that suffering brings success.

This is a mistake.

Healing — the highest form of success — does not come from cutting off valued “parts” of self. It does not come from rejecting deeply-held heart-longings in order to fit a highly-valued mask, or image, of what we need to be.

Healing comes from integrating and transcending all that we have been before. Healing comes when we find the path to MORE of who we are, not less.

How did things get so mixed up?

How did things get so mixed up? In a word, control. Put another way, we lost the understanding of sacrifice as gentle surrender, as releasing our striving for a higher vibration or a greater, more integrated vision. We misunderstand sacrifice as self-betrayal in order to fit predetermined concepts.

Why would any reasonable human being accept the premise that there is no success without sacrifice? That the path to success requires us to cut away pieces of our Self, for any reason?

The truth is most of us learned it. We learned to value the mask, we get pulled to fit in, we are seduced by the reward of pleasing the expectations of others, expectations that are all around us. We valued this MORE than the unfolding of our authentic Self.

Let’s explore some of the stereotypes of this type of sacrifice.

  1. The high powered executive who resents his family for not understanding the sacrifice he’s made…and that sacrifice is connected to his family?
  2. The woman who resents her husband or her “successful” friend because of her own perceived lack of prestige and recognition, when actually these are simply the outward signs she has cut off her own voice and inner strength?
  3. The nearly universal pull, at any age, to be accepted into the group.

Each of these broad-stroke examples has an individual submitting and/or subjecting themselves to a set of pre-conceived conditions.

You must be willing to act in this way in order to be worthy. You must not value this or that in order to be acceptable. Some other person or group tells the individual how to behave.

Why would anyone choose to give themselves over to such obvious outside control?

Only because they have learned to value another persons perception of them as worthy more than experiencing and knowing themselves to be worthy.

For this to work, the benefits of being a part of the group, of being accepted, and of having someone else figure out what we are supposed to do or how we are supposed to be must be seen as pretty significant.

This type of sacrifice that leads us to forfeit something of such high value because we believe that’s the only way to get what you want is everywhere, and that is a tragedy. It creates pain. It keeps you stuck. It fosters resentment and keeps us victims in our own lives.

If you have created similar illogical traps for yourself, it’s because somewhere, somehow, you thought you had to. It appeared to be a necessity.

And now you know differently.

So now you know that when you feel alone, desperate, or less than…this is when you are most susceptible to believing that something or someone outside you can provide you with purpose and belonging.

How do you step into success without sacrifice? How do you surrender to success, to healing, to your own integrated and transcendent evolution of self?

The Latin roots of sacrifice come from sacer, meaning ‘sacred’; and facere, meaning ‘to make’.

You absolutely stop comparing your value to the value of an outside person, group or concept. You combine a true understanding of your own profound value with a deeply felt connection to a higher vibration, a greater Vision. You align your dreams and your Spiritual Path.

You move towards Namaste — ah, because I can see me, I can now see you! The sacred in me recognizes and honors the sacred in you.

Shall we dance?

About Tim Lowry

Tim has been teaching energy healing and personal empowerment to a worldwide audience at both the graduate and undergraduate levels for more than 15 yrs.

Tim successfully integrates results-oriented accountability and transformational breakthroughs of spiritual evolution and energy consciousness. Tim's mastery and passion for helping clients achieve their goals is evidenced in his ability to build a thriving business mainly through word-of-mouth and referrals. A significant reason for this success is Tim's ability to facilitate clients through transformation quickly and clearly.

When he is not performing on stage (yes, that hair belongs to a lead guitarist), he continues to find new ways of being Mr. Right to his wife of 20 years and father to their two children. Tim currently lives in Land O Lakes, FL, USA, and also travels the world supporting his clients.

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